Thank You for Rejecting Me
If you never heard of The Heart of Dating podcast or attended one of their conferences, you may not be familiar with Kait Warman. Through this book, you will.
Kait’s vulnerability throughout the book is refreshing. This isn’t just some self-help book that tells you to do this and you will have everything that you ever desired. No, these are real-life experiences that have shaped Kait and where God would meet her. This is practical advice and things to do to begin working through our experiences and even some of our trauma.
The conversation on dating, especially as a Christian, is weird. There have been many times when the Church’s language and messaging have gotten it wrong. The amount of pressure that’s on dating is too much. Marriage has been put on a pedestal and that has done a lot of damage too.
At the end of each chapter, she has written a letter to each chapter topic, like a letter to rejection or her trauma. There are even next steps to help you along with this journey.
One thing I loved in her book is her consistent discussion on the power of therapy! Her language around therapy is very beneficial especially to people who grew up thinking therapy is wrong or not what God-fearing Christians utilize.
I’ve learned in my walk that nothing compares to a relationship with my Heavenly Father, but therapy is a great resource and a helpful tool to deal with your trauma and help heal.
I’ve learned that I have been so mean and hurtful to myself and I can imagine that many others do the same. I have rejected myself before anyone else could think I was protecting myself. But, I’ve hurt myself even more.
We can’t escape rejection, it’s a part of our lives. But we can use tools to help us navigate through rejection and come out on the other side feeling stronger.
I have faith. I hope you grow yours as well.
I warn you that there is mention of abuse. There’s an entire chapter devoted. I urge you to read it and look at what she’s sharing because the knowledge can benefit us all. It’s hard to read and my heart broke for her.
There are aspects of us that need work and the help of God to heal that and work with us. No one is perfect and we shouldn’t expect perfection from anyone. Not even ourselves.
We can have fun dating with proper boundaries and protecting our hearts. It’s possible.
I highly recommend this book to everyone! It’ll make you think and snap-in agreement. It’ll show you that vulnerability is a superpower and that people relate to vulnerability.
This book is a great tool for all of us who face rejection. Thank you and you go Kait!